Take notice of the warning signs and protect yourself from dating violence.

You can be in an abusive relationship without ever being hit.

Abusive partners are self-centred, immature, manipulative, can't appreciate the views or needs of others, shift blame onto others, don't take responsibility for the bad things they do or say, are possessive and treat people like their property, and put others down to feel good about themselves.

You may not have had too many relationships to compare this one to so the only thing you can rely on are your own feelings and learning to recognise warning signs to protect yourself from violence or abuse in the future.

For example, when you first start dating someone it can be a bit confusing if your date starts to act very jealously.

These questions are designed to establish a pattern of behavior.

Meaning that the questions may represent warnings signs if it happened once, but may not necessarily cause you alarm to call it violence, whereas other markers might be immediately identified as harmful and cause you to act on your feelings. When there are disagreements between the two of you, does this person always have to “win” the argument? Does this person take pride in your achievements, or does this person view your accomplishments as threatening?

The way dating violence is often portrayed in the media suggests acts of physical and sexual violence.

That’s one part of dating violence—but in dating and intimate partner relationships, sexual violence is often an escalated act that follows other acts of emotional or physical abuse. And it doesn’t look the same for every relationship,” said Brian Pinero, RAINN’s vice president of Victim Services.

Do they make you feel beholden to them for their financial assistance? Does this person make you feel incompetent to make your own decisions? facebook twitter) as a way of knowing what you are doing? Does this person threaten violence toward you or toward self (i.e., suicide threats) in order to make you stay in the relationship? Do they act displeased when what you are wearing doesn’t fit their wishes? We provide information about academic, legal, medical, emotional, and student conduct resources to survivors of sexual assault, relationship violence and stalking.