For 10, 20, 30 years, the men in their lives have been blathering on about themselves and not listening. Maybe it's the journalist in me who always preferred interviewing to being interviewed. I ask questions that make it clear I have heard what they say and want to hear more. But I'm not that interesting.• And fourth, listening is an amazingly under-appreciated talent. Hearing someone's story and details about their life is what it's all about, as far as I'm concerned. I track the conversation -- I'm not leaping from one topic to another.• First, you're not as fascinating as you think you are. I don't care if you're Jon Hamm or Joe Scarborough or the head of an investment bank or ambassador to Ghana.

When it comes to dating and relationships, men and women’s experiences aren’t so different…unfortunately. Even if you don’t see yourself in his description, I hope just knowing the crazy dating gauntlet guys go through will help you have compassion and understanding. Do you see yourself or anyone you know in LMs description of the women he’s meeting?

And most of all, open you up to guys like LM who may not dazzle you on a date, but would make a fantastic partner or husband. Would you email him if you knew what you know about him now? And SHARE THIS with your friends via Facebook…they need this info too, right?

At Our Time.com, we honor the freedom, wisdom and appreciation for life that only comes with time.

We also recognize that what people want in their 50s, 60s and beyond is often very different from what they wanted in their 30s and 40s, let alone their 20s.

Online dating isn't something to fear even if you haven't dated for years The following is stated neither with gushing pride nor cowering shame: During those past 13 years, I've had more than 1,000 dates with more than 300 different women.

And that doesn't count the five "meaningful relationships" I had along the way.

But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.

All I want, to use an old fashioned term, is a girlfriend.

Dating should be fun, even if a little exhausting at times. You know yourself better than you did at 30, but you have less patience for the endless BS -- and it is endless -- and it's difficult to find someone with whom you want to spend however much time you have left.

But dating can and should be energizing, exciting and educational.

OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54 year old man really wants from you? She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!